Hint: It doesn’t involve icebreakers.

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So I decided on a whim to look up “How to find friends” on Google today. As soon as I inserted those words into the search engine, my worst nightmare resurfaced. Here’s a glimpse of what I found:

We don’t want your damn corny icebreakers. That’s fake. We introverts want to remain antisocial. Stop forcing everything.

I’ve had a different experience with this…


Stop with the corny icebreakers.

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I don’t understand why people crave finding new friends.

It’s almost as if the world has taught us that going to networking events and asking a bunch of corny icebreakers is the best way to find them. Perhaps even creating a profile on Snapchat for the sake of adding random people to your circle. Why are we so damn desperate?

I get it, friends are important (in my Elmo voice).

But they aren’t the holy grail of your entire being. Every time I tried finding new friends, everything backfired on me. That’s why I said “fuck it” at one point…


Even if you’re super close with each other.

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Hooray!

You’ve just cut off your toxic-ass circle! Now it’s time for you to unwind. Chill out. Enjoy your newfound mentally healthy lifestyle. The virus that’s crept into your life and caused you to suffer is no more.

That's until…

They call back. Let me guess, you still have the same number as before. They call you enough times until you’re ready to hear them out. The more you speak to them, the more you want to reinstate them into your circle.

Congratulations, you’ve just fallen into the rabbit hole.

Believe it or not, I had the same problem with…


I figured out the formula.

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“How I Made X Amount of Money” articles on Medium are a stomping ground for every new writer.

They just found out they can make money from their writing on the platform and they’re hungry for some cash. Instead of reading a bunch of writing tips, those articles are filled with the holy grail they crave — hacks. I was there too.

Everyone’s a new writer at some point.

So I spent most of my time reading as many of those articles as possible. Soaking in lessons from the all-knowing writer who made 10k in two months. …


And how to fix them.

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I have a secret — I never cared about “quality” writing.

Why? Because quality writing is subjective. Quantity complements quality. You’re supposed to magically ascend to the quality heavens if you write thousands of articles.

That’s so far from the truth.

Even though writing is supposed to be a spiritual experience in which your computer screen has a one-on-one therapy session with your mind, there still has to be some intention with it. It’s very possible to overlook some huge mistakes that aren’t getting fixed.

Ever since I fixed these mistakes, I went from being a terrible writer who has…


It’s not just light-skinned and dark-skinned.

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I watched a video today from a YouTuber I follow who primarily focuses on social justice content and pop culture.

I can’t lie, most of the time he doesn’t know what he is talking about, which is why he should stick to pop culture. He acts like he’s such a devout activist that it makes me cringe to no end. I’m not saying that he’s always disingenuous. He keeps acting like he’s such a deep activist when in reality he’s pretty surface-level — and that’s okay.

The topic today that he claims he knows a lot about is colorism.

The…


Change the trajectory of your life with these small habits.

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Your early 20s are a scary sight.

Where do you want to be in twenty years? Heck, five years? There are so many small habits you can implement in your early 20s to make a huge difference in your life later on. Those habits are what guide us depending on where this awkward map called life takes us.

Here are some habits I’ve implemented now that I wish I would’ve implemented sooner. Hopefully, these can alter the course of your life for the better as well.


It’s not as hopeless as it sounds.

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“That’s just not how life goes.”

That’s what my grandma uttered to me as I told her my Medium earnings. You know how families can be. Everyone always told me that writing was an aimless job. There’s no way I can make a decent income with it.

They’ve been telling me to get a “real” job for years.

I refused and kept trying my luck on Medium. After I wrote my ass off every day for almost a year, my earnings exploded. They couldn’t believe that I actually made more than one dollar from the platform.

When I saw their…


Hint: Expand your learning curve.

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I never thought I’d make a cent from writing. EVER.

If you’ve been following me for a while, you know this story about me. But for the people who don’t know, I had a few failed business ventures before writing. I tried reselling items on eBay and I ended up losing over five hundred dollars. I tried starting my digital marketing agency and everyone told me to fuck off on the phone.

After I wrote every single day for almost an entire year, I’ve noticed a huge uptick in my earnings.

It’s a lot more than I’m used to. I…


It’s a little tricky, but not impossible.

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95% percent of your “friends” are acquaintances.

The hardest part of your relationship journey is finding friends that actually have your best interest at heart. Finding friends who aren’t there to use you for something you have. Friends that are supportive of your decisions.

I had a hard time with acquaintances in high school.

I used to be terrified of sitting at the lunch table by myself. I clung to a group of friends who didn’t give a rat’s ass about me. …

Khadejah Jones

I write about life lessons, writing, social justice, and productivity. New articles published daily. Get my free writing habit guide here: https://samurain

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